When I Didn’t Get Pregnant – But Then I Did!


My Journey to Jack

I have three children, so you might assume that it’s easy for me to get pregnant.  However, that has been untrue more than true.  With my first daughter, I was diagnosed with unexplained secondary infertility.  My second daughter was easy.  My son was a long, arduous road filled with lots of disappointment, tears, and trips to a reproductive endocrinologist.

After a year of wanting a third baby, I had exhausted my options for getting pregnant without medical intervention (charting, tests, digital tests, digital monitors, herbal supplements, IMG_6276exercise, diet, you name it).  After extensive testing by the fertility doctors, I was once again diagnosed with unexplained secondary infertility – which basically meant every test they could run came back perfectly normal but I couldn’t get pregnant.  My options were laid out from least to most invasive (and expensive as our insurance has zero infertility coverage).  Needless to say, it wasn’t appealing.  But we wanted a baby more than we disliked our treatment options. I wish that there had been an at-home option like the new FDA-approved The Stork OTC kit that I could have tried, but there wasn’t anything on the market back then (you ladies are so lucky now – all you have to do is go to Target to pick one up!).

At the fertility clinic, months and months went by, filled with prescriptions, injections, treatments, and more and more testing.  It was emotionally, physically, and financially draining.  But we persisted.  And finally, at the end of October 2016, I was finally pregnant!!!  I couldn’t believe it when I saw that first positive test.  In fact, I was so shocked that I didn’t tell my husband.  Instead, I waited to take another the following morning.  I still couldn’t believe that line, so I text a picture to one of my best friends, asking if I was seeing things.  She thought it was positive as well, so I went off to the lab for an HCG draw.  I still hadn’t told my husband, as I wanted to be 10,000% positive that I really was pregnant.  When I got those first, beautiful HCG numbers back, I decided I needed to devise the perfect plan to let him know we were finally, finally, having that baby we’d wanted so desperately.

My estimated due date was our wedding anniversary, July 19, 2017.  So I wanted to weave that into the big reveal.  We’d also just moved back to LA full time and I had been telling him we needed to return to the restaurant we ate at the night we got engaged (word to the wise, if you are in LA and haven’t eaten at Angelini Osteria, make a reservation right now).  Thus, I thought it would be perfect to make a reservation there and reveal that rather than planning to have a wedding on July 19th, we would be having a baby.

With my girls in tow, I went to our favorite bakery and ordered a cake that said “Will you be my Daddy? July 19, 2017”, then ran it to the restaurant and let the staff know to bring it out as an unannounced surprise when we were done with dinner. (If you scroll back through my IMG_4422Instagram, it was the day I took a picture of my girls with the Banksy street art around the corner from Angelini’s) We had a great dinner that night, talking about how much had happened in our life together since our first meal at Angelini’s.  We were debating dessert when the waiters came out with a cake, singing Happy Birthday, and set it in front of my husband.  He was about to let them know they had the wrong table when he read what was on the cake.  He then freaked with happiness and joy.  It was such a wonderful conclusion to our hard journey of trying for Baby #3 (and you can check out my video I sneaked of him for the big reveal)!

I’ll never know why I didn’t get pregnant on my own, but I really wish there had been an intermediate step available to me to try.  Something between ovulation tests and full on clinical treatments that left me exhausted and sad.  That’s why I jumped at the chance to partner with  Mums the Word Network and The Stork OTC to share my story with you and help build awareness that now there IS an intermediate step for women struggling to get pregnant that doesn’t involve clinics and great expense and fun things like having dye shot into your uterus for imaging/testing to qualify for any of the clinic’s treatments.  AND The Stork OTC has a success rate of up to 20%!  When you compare that to IUI’s success rate of 16-21%, you can see why I’m so excited to see this product hit the market!

If your attempts to chart and use ovulation tests are failing you, you can head to select Target stores nationwide and grab The Stork OTC from the family planning aisle, right next to all of those ovulation tests you’ve been buying every month.  If you’d like to find out more about Stork and connect with me, I will be a panelist for the Twitter Party chat on August 17th at 8-9:00pm EST.  Jump on with the hashtag #TTCwithStorkOTC And hustle out to Target between now and August 19, 2017 to take advantage of the special buy one, get one 50% off promotion!  Or, if you prefer to shop from the comfort of your own home, you can get 25% off the Stork OTC Single Device at the Stork OTC Online Store through the end of August.



I wish you success and ease in your Road to Baby and want to remind you that you are not alone.  Infertility is often a silent struggle women go through, but there are a lot of us who’ve been in your shoes or are presently going through it right now.  If you ever need a listening ear, just shoot me an email or DM.  You don’t need to go through this alone!

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This is a sponsored conversation from Mums the Word Network and The Stork OTC. All opinions are ALWAYS my own.


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Want to Know What to REALLY Pack for the Hospital?

Photo credit: Tess Watson

Here’s my official list I share with everyone…
FOOD. Hospital food is awful and they feed you at set hours. You will be hungry ALL THE TIME (you just birthed a human!).

Ensure (check with your OB). There’s no reason you shouldn’t have calories during labor. Easy way to get some sustenance without going against doctors’ antiquated orders to withhold all food.

A water bottle that won’t leak, that you can keep in bed with you. Much easier than having to keep that stupid tray table nearby and actually move your poor, abused body to reach it. You can pour water from the measured cups the nurses bring you so they can still keep track of your intake. If your bottle has ml or oz markings, it’s even easier.

Clothes that are easy to nurse in, but you won’t mind taking pictures in. In dark colors. You will bleed like a murder victim postpartum (no one ever prepared me for THAT!). It is much less horrendous if you’re wearing a stretchy black nightgown vs a light blue hospital tent.

Slipper socks. Hospital floors and bathrooms… Enough said. (Dark colors again – you’d be surprised what ends up on your feet the first few times you stand up).

Rubber bands and comfortable headbands. Hair in your face is damn annoying during labor. And postpartum sweat hair looks better in a headband.

Cameras/phones/chargers/laptop or iPad. My oldest wouldn’t have left the hospital with a name were it not for my laptop and the Internet. It’s also easy to upload pictures to friends and family if you bring your gear.

Cosmetics. If you’re normally a makeup queen and you don’t want 11,000 pictures looking like complete hell, bring whatever you normally use. If you’re concerned about those 1st photos: Model In a Bottle. Hand to God it works and I credit it for keeping me human while delivering my kids.

Toiletries. Shampoo/conditioner/soap/face wash/brush/contact lens solution and case/toothbrush and paste/hair brush. Even the “fancy” hospitals tend to not have anything beyond hospital hand soap in the shower. Color me shocked when I had my first. My hair was even more shocked.

Chapstick. Your lips may get very dry during labor. The post partum sweating should keep you covered after that…

A nursing cover is useful unless you will be comfortable with whipping the girls out with visitors watching. You can skip nursing pillows – a lot of fuss when you can get extra bed pillows from the nurses and haul a lot less in/out of the hospital. And also skip nursing pads – your milk won’t come in for a few days and, if you should be early and leak, the hospital will happily give you some.

Cute baby outfits to take baby home in. Don’t bring just 1 – you may have a diaper disaster and baby may be too big/small for standard newborn size. The hospital will provide basic babywear, a hat, and swaddle blanket for your stay.

Postpartum Clothes. Comfy, stretchy outfit for you to go home in. You’ll be in the hospital mesh underwear with the huge pad (like Depends size) and you will still look approximately 7 months pregnant, so take that into account when choosing clothes.

Oh and remember to take off your rings when you get to the hospital! Your hands will swell from all the fluids in the iv’s and you don’t want them to cut off your rings. Wear a necklace if you don’t normally so you’ll have somewhere safe to keep them until you de-puff.

The hospital will provide diapers if you’re not doing cloth and will give you ones to take home. The little gauze wipes they have are gold. Get as many as humanly possible. They’re hard to find elsewhere and $$$$ when you do track them down.

Take home an extra (or two) perineal bottle so you’ll have one for your 2nd bathroom or for when you leave the house. That thing is your BEST FRIEND.

I packed the most valuable items at viability (24 weeks) and taped my “grab it” item list to the top of the bag so I (or my husband) wouldn’t have to think about where to find things when it was actually go time. I was unexpectedly hospitalized at 32 weeks during my first pregnancy and was so glad I had a bag and list for DH to follow so I wasn’t trying to think about what I needed in a stressful situation!

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